Back with a bang

Yeah, you are right. Am back to blogging :) Well, I plan to keep my blog updated from now on and I hope I do. Obviously, I am blogging because years down the lane, I wanna know what I was doing back then. Its one kind of a diary for me. A diary which I don't mind sharing with anyone...

I was driving back home when I was thinking about what to write in my blog everyday and I think my observation capacity is the highest when I drive. The next incident I am going to state may contradict this line ;) Well, I was in my dream world as I was driving and a kid just came in between. I struck the break cord and with all my might caught up my heavy Honda Activa and made sure I didn't fall down! There came a screeching sound which caught the attention of almost every person on the road. It was embarrassing, but then such incidents do happen in life to give you a wake up call at times. Thank God my reflex action was good enough and Good Heavens nothing happened to the child! You can't beat my observation capacity on the road, can you?! ;)

Anyways, the reason I narrated this incident here was to show that I learnt something from this. I have learnt the importance of driving safely and driving well. Though this is something I would want to forget, I ought to remember the lessons learnt from such things. I am sure that many such incidents happen in our daily life and we need to pay heed to such things so that they don't happen in the future. So it is all about observing things that happen in your life and learning from them.

Eureka!! Now I think I found an answer to my ever-persisting question "What do I blog everyday". If I cant find a nice topic to write about, I am gonna write about what I learn or observe everyday. I will  try and pursue my blogging everyday (Or at least, every other day!! ) I think this is gonna  motivate me to learn from incidents that happen in my life. Moreover, it will motivate me to keep my blog updated on that so that years down the lane, I will know what I did and what I learnt :) 

I believe life is all about learning every day...every second...every moment... So learn to learn :)

Happy learning :)

Winning and Losing

Why does everyone like to Win and hate to lose? Is it because it bolsters one's ego? May be..
Why does everyone keep running behind success? Is it because they want to prove something to the world? May be..

Winning does give people a sense of satisfaction. But if you analyse closely, the sense of satisfaction is probably because they compare themselves with others. Success in this material world is very relative. People do not consider it as absolute. May be that's why most people who are successful, find it difficult to retain their success.

We all need to view success as absolute and not relative. And more importantly, we should learn to accept failures as gracefully as we accept success. That is true character! We have to enjoy the journey of life and not pay heed to "Success" and "Failure". In this world which is getting more and more competitive by the day, we can be happy only if we learn to see success and failure as two sides of the same coin.

So what matters the most is the journey, not the result. The experience, not the outcome. Then there would be many reasons to smile in life.

Does success always do good for you? I have pondered about this many times and I don't think it does. Not always. It takes a lot of effort to handle success. I have known people who have lost a lot because of their inability to handle success. Some have lost their family, some their respect in the society and some their character!! Most of the time, failure teaches you more than success. Someone once said, "Any man and sail through turbulence, but if you want to judge a man's character, give him Power and see how he handles it". I would like to substitute "Power" with "Success" and I still believe it makes sense.

Sometimes you win by losing something..and sometimes you lose by winning something!!


So have the right spirit and balance your victories and failures gracefully.

Hope you enjoyed this article..and forgive me if I was too preachy :D

Ciao

Describing myself

Well, I wonder why it is so easy to describe others than one's own self!! I've been staring at this post aimlessly wondering where to start. Before I describe myself, let me understand why it is so easy to describe others than describing myself! Is it only for me? I don't know! I am thinking as and when I am typing this post so bear with me if it gets a little too boring :D

Yet to complete!!!


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Things that matter.......and things that don't

The "So What" syndrome

Mohan Kuruvilla

What keeps us going in life?

Uncertainty of life

Impermanence of life

Nostalgia

What travels faster than the fastest moving object?! The answer is...Your MIND. Just hold on for a second and observe how fast your mind travels. Trust me, you will surely be amazed. I really admire those people who have control over their thoughts!! Now leaving that apart, what made me speak about the swiftness of mind?

I was just lying down lazily on my bed one evening think about how to kill time. I didn't feel like spending time with my friends too (strangely!) . Going out for eating/shopping didn't amuse me either. What did I decide to do? I decided to just spend time with myself and think about my past. (You know what? you sometimes need this kind of introspection! the more you spend this kind of time, the more refreshed you will feel)

What flashed my mind was not the small achievements of my life or the acquaintances I have had. It was not my family or friends. Unexpectedly, what occupied my empty mind was my life at Rosary Matric..My very own school...The thoughts..The place..The ground..The assembly..The teachers.. Sister Leena D'Souza (my principal).. They all bring nothing but joy to me. The best part of my schooling, from L.K.G to Class IX was in Rosary. I was such a tom-boy back then in this all-girls school. Those were truly the best days of my life! I remembered about those small awards that were given to us and they way we all competed to get them. Awards like "Best Behavior", "Best Dressed", etc meant so much to each one of us. Being a house captain or leader was something to boast off. I remembered how we used to fight for our marks and await the rankholders ceremony. All of those things seem so trivial now. And so meaningless. What brings meaning to my life are these memories and not the awards..The people and not situations.. These memories are worth everything in this world.

I really didn't know that life at Rosary Matric would bring a smile and few drops of tears (of joy of course!) almost a decade later. It just gave me a pleasant surprise :)

Enjoy every moment of your life and try to remember small things that happened in the past. You never know what small things will bring you a smile decades later!

MIND!

As Napoleon Hill states,” What the human mind can conceive and believe, the mind of a man can achieve”. This quote clearly states what the human mind is capable of. As we all know, the human mind has the capacity to learn, to remember, to like, dislike, perceive, believe and above all, THINK! The human mind is so powerful, that it stores anything that comes in its way - be it an event, lesson, idea or even people for that matter. Humans mostly tend to get engrossed in the negative aspects that happen to them in their lives. We tend to remember insults and not appreciation, loss and not gain, in general the bad and not the good. After a period of time, things that are insignificant or trivial become the major part of our memory thus replacing good and true thoughts and wishes. We are all aware that it requires great effort to remember things. But the fact is that, it requires a lot of effort to forget as well! We have to focus on positive thoughts and neglect the thoughts that lower our spirits. Most of the common questions that haunt people are, “Why me?”, “Why does this happen to me?” etc. But we cannot grow if we allow our mind to be occupied with such petty issues. We should fill our minds with constructive thoughts and the opinions and suggestions of people who wish for our welfare.

“GREAT MINDS DISCUSS IDEAS

MEDIOCRE MINDS DISCUSS EVENTS

SMALL MINDS DISCUSS PEOPLE”

The best way to progress is to nurture our mind with optimism and care for people who love you, people who wish for you to grow and not the opposite. Sometimes in life, there are many unexpected incidents that we wish had not happened. We only have to learn lessons from such incidents and get going rather than worrying about it. Such incidents are over and constant recall of such incidents makes the mind lose its eagerness to grow, to learn, to think and hence becomes rusted and weak. Your thoughts determine your actions and your actions determine your happiness. So the key to success is to be positive! I would like to end this article with a small poem,

If you think you are beaten, you are,

If you think you dare not, you don’t,

If you want to win, but if you think you cant,

It is almost certain you wont.

Life’s battles don’t always go,

To the strongest or hardest man;

Sooner or later, the man who wins,

Is the man who THINKS HE CAN!!

Be positive! Be happy!! JJ

School Life

Ok here’s my blog about my School life. I’ve studied in two schools. One is Rosary Matriculation n the other is in Adarsh Vidyalaya. I’ve been two totally different persons in both these schools. If you ask me which school I like the most, I sure wouldn’t have de answer! I’ve liked both the schools n different ways n hated them in different ways too!

First about Rosary Matric.

This is the school that made me “What I am today”! Really.  Partly.. Yo! ‘m confusing! Basically I mean all de discipline n   so called “manners” were taught to me in this school! The “Convent Education” has its own +`s n –`s. But all that apart. I hav enjoyed my school life ONLY in this school. I was this total “Tom Boy” of my class .I was a very short gal with boy cut (2^nd shortest. Can’t beat my dear friend Vaishu for being de shortest!)  sitting in the first row n walking out of the class whenever I get the slightest chance! And v used to hav few teachers who were very young. They had just finished college n joined de school for teaching math. Vaishu n me were their pets! They used to call both of us to de staff room and simply talk to us. Give us chocolates…what not!  And yeah being the Fatima house captain was something very very special for me! I was the Princi’s pet! Seriously .She used to like me so much coz I used to play TT n win prizes for Rosary Matriculation. :-p.But you know wat…Sister Leena Dsouza( my Princi) is a woman whom I Respect, Adore ,wat do I say! She is the most respectable woman I’ve ever known. When a person looks at her, he/she automatically respects her. She is a wonderful woman. She is the woman who really encouraged me to play TT in spite of my exams and all. Once I remember, I wrote my Half-Yearly exam (not sure which subject) at 6 a.m in the morning! She had arranged a special Invigilator for me to write the exam. I finished my exam at 8.30 and rushed to Nehru Stadium for my Sub-Junior Nationals! I am very grateful to her! I was in Rosary Matriculation till my 9^th standard. I had to leave de school after that for 10^th 11^th n 12^th coz they said playing TT in these crucial years of school was risky. And Sister Leena was leaving that year!. So I decided its no more my place to study and went to Adarsh Vidyalaya for my 10^th 11^th n 12^th std.

Now to life in Adarsh!

Life in Adarsh is very special to me! Firstly coz I met my best buddies in life over here!  And secondly coz this is the school which transformed me to a responsible and a matured gal! I became a very very quiet gal here ( had to keep up my mom’s name man!!..btw, she was a teacher in Adarsh). I kept wondering where that “tom boy” jalaja disappeared! I dint pretend to be quiet. I really started talking less. It was the “talk less and think more” period for me! (may b just like evry1 of this age! ) I never used to attend classes here too. Firstly I used to miss classes coz of TT and Secondly coz I was the sports secretary in 11^th and 12^th.  It was a great feeling to be a leader. We learn a lot. I started liking taking up responsibility. As I said earlier, this is the school which gave me my best buddies in life! I knew Sweta already, coz she was from Rosary. I met Poorna and Divya here. We four got along really well and ‘m so glad I met them in my life. The best part is that we also live in the same locality. So v could hang out together more often. ‘m sure our friendship will stand the test of time.(‘ll write a separate blog about our friendship later!).

So long :)